Original Family and Adoption Observations

It seems obvious that the Creator of the universe and of mankind originally intended people to live in a structured and secure family arrangement. He began with a man and woman, assigned them to produce offspring, and the historical record shows that most families stayed together. In other words, in the Hebrew Scriptural references, divorce was not a common thing in that society. Leaving a child for someone else to raise was also not a common thing. Since the extended family almost always lived together or near each other, this family group worked together to be a part of the children's lives, even sharing in their upbringing. Grandma and Grandpa, aunts and uncles, cousins, all lived in close proximity, the older generations supplementing the raising and teaching of the children in the family. In more recent times, for various reasons, many children have been chosen for adoption by caring families. What a wonderful provision for children, who's biological parents cannot bring them up.

However, this has resulted in emotional situations among many adopted children. I've noticed this state in virtually all who I've known as adopted children. There may be those who do not suffer some emotional feelings of abandonment, but all that I've known have had to deal with these feelings. The need for belonging to one's biological parent is instilled at conception. Even in utero, the fetus knows where he belongs. It follows, that, when the child is adopted, or housed in an orphanage awaiting adoption, the child grows up with a sense of abandonment. Some remain angry with the biological parent, some have emotional issues in their lives, even though they may not show any particular emotional issues. When, later in life, the adopted person seeks consultation with emotional healing in mind, the subconscious remembers the abandoned feelings while either in utero or in the first 5 years. In most cases, the child is placed into care as a result of a single mother who is unable to keep the child.

It's been my observation, that even though the adoptive parents can be the most devoted and loving parents, the child still experiences a feeling of abandonment, even if it isn't openly observed. This situation is evidence that humans inherently need the stability of the biological family staying intact. Adopted children and adults benefit immensely in a session of Naturally Restored Technique to process or let go of the nagging feeling of abandonment.