Forgive and Let Go

Let Go:
Be kind to yourself. Have compassion for yourself. Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for
expecting too much from yourself. Forgive yourself for blaming yourself.
It's OK to be average. It's OK to excel, doing so with joy, humility and gratitude for the experience.
"Show up" for your place in family and Life.
"Pay attention" to your needs.
"Tell the truth", be truthful to yourself.
  If we can do these things, then, we can
"Let go" of what we can't control.
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Letting Go

A limiting belief is a thought or idea that you chose to accept as reality at some point, based on your perception of an event or relationship at that time. It prevents you from going beyond your self-imposed reality. By transforming your limiting beliefs into limitless beliefs, you transcend your current reality and broaden your ability to give and receive love, heal and discover new perspectives you may never have realized existed. You have Options! Letting go means you are free to live in your reality now, no longer feeling you are obligated to be burdened by carrying all the old baggage. You're giving yourself permission to see new perspectives and new situations. 

Seattle Holiday 2013

A week in Washington state! This was a fascinating holiday with my cousins, the McCanns. What a hoot! We traveled miles and miles every day, touring Seattle, 3 ferries, the docks, watched the salmon swimming upstream, the piers, the boardwalk, Pioneer Square shops, the original Starbucks, Pike Place market, Dusty Strings harp center (met Molly, in person!), met with Seumas and played a few tunes, went kayaking on Puget Sound, sculpture park, the Pacific Ocean at Ruby Beach (which reminds me, perhaps it was a ruby stone in the raw which I found on the beach while rock-hunting), overnight in a holiday house/cabin near Forks (didn't see any vampires), an elk walked through the yard there, enjoyed some fantastic restaurants and parks. Stayed with the McCanns in their wonderful new house and played "fetch" with their dog Lala, alias, Bella.
Great experience for Maureen and me. Last time we flew together was to London 14 years ago.
Missing them a great deal. Can't wait to go back in 2014!

Classical Music, Latest Project

I've been working daily on new piano music for a reception in August. Every time I begin a new and challenging  piece, I fear "I don't think I can memorize this", or "It's too hard, I won't get it in time for the performance". But, the time finally comes, the one day, when I see the "light emerging", and I know I will accomplish it in time! I'm very used to doing all my own arrangements on harp, with folk and jazz and most genres - rather easy to do - so I don't have to attend to whether I'm playing in a way that will get a passing mark from someone else; I'm not in it to be critiqued, to be judged or graded. I can wander and play as I feel and everyone will love it. But this wedding couple has asked for specific classical pieces and kindly sent me all the music, so I'm playing just as the composer intended. When you play a written score, you are interpreting the music according to the concepts of the creator of that work. This is the case with classical music from all the great composers of the 17th through the 19th centuries. I hope I can do justice to Beethoven, Chopin, Schumann, Satie, Grieg and Debussy. I'm familiar with this music and have played around with a couple of them, but never learned any of these "fluently". I'm grateful for the opportunity to learn them and thankful to the wedding couple for giving me this "assignment". I've focused so much on Celtic harp in the last few years, I neglected piano. I'm heading out for a 2-week holiday and that will cut into my practice time so I'm hitting it hard during my weeks at home. These tunes are so beautiful and while playing, I think of these composers. I have my composer picture above my piano, so I can look at their faces while I'm playing, imagining them at the keyboard, melody and harmony running through their thoughts and getting it just right!

Relief

Naturally Restored Emotional Energy work that provides clarity,
transformation, intuitive insight and relief.
Uncover significant hurts, change your reaction to the hurt and walk you through the most effective way to get over it: FORGIVENESS! And it starts with forgiving yourself. 
Release negative emotions that keep you in depression and anxiety.
Release the effects of painful memories and past traumas.
Find the emotional root of physical pain and release the emotion to eliminate chronic pain.
You'll never look at stress or depression in the same way!

Adoption

Naturally Restored Technique is one of  the most rapid ways to bring back the spirit and emotional happiness. We all have control over our inner world, and Naturally Restored Technique helps us to reclaim our control. It can lighten up heavy feelings, fears, phobias and anger. It can relieve anxiety, trauma from abuse, divorce and loss.

ADOPTION: It is reported that all adopted persons carry emotional burdens from their adoption and, sooner or later, these emotions affect their relationships, happiness and their life. Many feel an emptiness their whole life that they don’t understand. They can feel a loss of their birth parents, the heritage and identity that they may never know. They are adopted into an incredible and loving family who loves them, have everything they need and a happy childhood. All of this cannot change the fact that they hold onto buried emotions of grief, anger, loss and abandonment. Some develop defensive and destructive emotional patterns. Others develop phobias to relationship issues. These patterns limit their happiness and success in relationships with others.

Naturally Restored Technique allows them to recognize these patterns and feelings and release them so they can move forward in their life without these limitations.

Contact me to schedule an appointment to experience this restorative technique

Forgive and Let Go!

Naturally Restored Technique is the most rapid way to bring back the spirit and emotional happiness. We all have control over our inner world, and Naturally Restored helps us to reclaim our power and control. It can lighten up heavy feelings, fears, phobias and anger. It can relieve anxiety, trauma from abuse, divorce and loss. If feeling better is a priority in your life, contact me and let the healing begin! Phone, In-Person or Skype meetings.

Show Up

Let Go:
Be kind to yourself. Have compassion for yourself. Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for
expecting too much from yourself. Forgive yourself for blaming yourself.
It's OK to be average. It's OK to excel, doing so with joy, humility and gratitude for the experience.
"Show up" for your place in family and Life.
"Pay attention" to your needs.
"Tell the truth", be truthful to yourself and others. 
If we can do these things, then, we can
"Let go" of what we can't control.

Family Constellations Review

REVIEW OF BERT HELLINGER'S WORK AND THE BOOK "Family Constellations" by Joy Manee & Bert Hellinger. (Disclaimer: This is a review of the book, not the opinion of this writer.) Every person ever born into your family must be honored in his or her assigned place in the family alignment. Bert Hellinger's works prove that this is essential for peace for you and your descendants. If a family member is excluded, forgotten, never mentioned, shunned, ignored in his/her rightful place, there are consequences within the next 2 or 3 generations involving another family member. If a family member is excluded from recognition of his place because of a seemingly unacceptable lifestyle or personality trait, even criminal, a similarity will show up in a near-future generation to offset the imbalance of honor in the family. Example: if a child has died but is never properly mourned, but instead the family is silent about it, a later child may feel compelled to take their place, as if, 'well, if you can't mourn him, how about you mourn me?' Likewise, if a current family member is identified as a criminal or with unacceptable behaviour, research may reveal a not-too-past ancestor showed similar traits that were hushed up, or he was ignored, excluded, disowned. The law of balance will result in a family member identifying with another.
We all belong to a family, a country, a community, a religion, an ethnic group, a clan, etc. We thrive when these are acknowledged and honored.
ADOPTION: In adoption situations, the adopted child and adoptive parents must honor the birth family in which the child was born. Adoption works best when the adoptive parents understand that they are substitute or surrogate parents, not a replacement. The adopted child needs to feel that where he came from has been rightfully honored. His birth parents are honored for giving him/her life, for passing on traits and gifts from his/her long line of ancestors, even though he may never know them. He has an inherent need to know that his birth family is honored for who they are. If his/her birth family is not honored, is excluded or never ever mentioned as real, emotions will show up in the adopted one that will reveal an emptiness, a feeling of not belonging, negative attitudes, or for some, behavior problems and challenges. When the adopted one's birth family is acknowledge and accepted, there can be a sense of peace within.
ABORTION and Invisible Dynamics: (This is in no way a discussion of the right or wrong of abortion, but, is a review of the concept of Family Dynamics.) In the case of abortion, if the aborted child is never given his/her place as part of the family, an imbalance in the family will show up in some way - even if the mother never reveals that she had the abortion. This is how Invisible Dynamics energy works. Even though it was a short life, that little one was either a sibling, a niece or nephew, a grandchild, an aunt or uncle, a cousin, etc. The child is a relative of the family. The parents need to mourn the child and they may have already done that. The child should be acknowledged for his/her place and honored like any other family member. Excluding a family member from his/her place will put in place "invisible dynamics" where a sibling or family member in the next generation will feel compelled to identify with the excluded family member. Identifying with the un-mourned, unrecognized, child may result in another child taking his/her place in an early death. Better for the mother and father to mourn the child they never knew than to have to mourn a child or grandchild they know. Family relationship is about giving and taking, parents and children give and take emotionally. Parents always give more. The aborted child gave his/her life for the sake of the family, as the mother made the decision that it was best for the family. (Albeit, sometimes she is persuaded by older family members in her decision.)
Benefits of Family Constellations: A proper Family Constellation session will balance family relationships, promote healing and peace and inspire individuals to step up and take their proper place in the family as father, mother, first-born, etc. The concept has benefitted many families in re-establishing harmonious relationships.

Original Family and Adoption Observations

It seems obvious that the Creator of the universe and of mankind originally intended people to live in a structured and secure family arrangement. He began with a man and woman, assigned them to produce offspring, and the historical record shows that most families stayed together. In other words, in the Hebrew Scriptural references, divorce was not a common thing in that society. Leaving a child for someone else to raise was also not a common thing. Since the extended family almost always lived together or near each other, this family group worked together to be a part of the children's lives, even sharing in their upbringing. Grandma and Grandpa, aunts and uncles, cousins, all lived in close proximity, the older generations supplementing the raising and teaching of the children in the family. In more recent times, for various reasons, many children have been chosen for adoption by caring families. What a wonderful provision for children, who's biological parents cannot bring them up.

However, this has resulted in emotional situations among many adopted children. I've noticed this state in virtually all who I've known as adopted children. There may be those who do not suffer some emotional feelings of abandonment, but all that I've known have had to deal with these feelings. The need for belonging to one's biological parent is instilled at conception. Even in utero, the fetus knows where he belongs. It follows, that, when the child is adopted, or housed in an orphanage awaiting adoption, the child grows up with a sense of abandonment. Some remain angry with the biological parent, some have emotional issues in their lives, even though they may not show any particular emotional issues. When, later in life, the adopted person seeks consultation with emotional healing in mind, the subconscious remembers the abandoned feelings while either in utero or in the first 5 years. In most cases, the child is placed into care as a result of a single mother who is unable to keep the child.

It's been my observation, that even though the adoptive parents can be the most devoted and loving parents, the child still experiences a feeling of abandonment, even if it isn't openly observed. This situation is evidence that humans inherently need the stability of the biological family staying intact. Adopted children and adults benefit immensely in a session of Naturally Restored Technique to process or let go of the nagging feeling of abandonment. 

Reading List

You Can Heal Your Life, by Louise Hay
www.louisehay.com
The Miracle In Water, by Masaru Emoto
http://www.amazon.com/The-Miracle-Water-Masaru-Emoto/dp/1451608055